5 generations of living

Life lived with 5 generations is completely different from passing life with 5 generations. Living life requires lot of maturity, lot of understanding, lot of acceptance, lot of eagerness, lot of happiness, lot of tolerance, and moreover lot of love and passion to live the life. But for existing or passing the life, just tolerance is enough.  I think more than men, women are more capable of living life fully for multiple generations.

Feeling proud that I was also part of 2 generations of the legendry women my Grandma. I’m not sure that I can use the word Legendary for a common woman who lived life within her boundaries.  But she was still like a miracle lady to me. I spent my whole childhood with her. She brought up me from my  1 year to 3 years  and then all the extended weekends, quarterly, half early and annual school long leaves and all the festive holidays….I spent with her.  Now she is no more…but all her memories are settled like fossils. Yeah its been one year since she passed away. (19th June 2016)

I’m sure she was not only kind of a Women who lived life for 5 generations or more. But she was the one whom I lived with and experienced all her unconditional love and affection and witnessed and been with her at-least 2 of her 5 generations. Her mental and physical strength all these years were a wonder to everyone around her.  I always admired by her Management skills (money, people, business, relationship etc.,). Apart from the past six months her life, she was independent and she was doing her farming works and making little penny every day.

I spent almost all my holidays with her; she was the one who took us (me, bros and sister) to movies. I remember we have watched most off the movies first day first show, that too all the Rajini films.  Not sure whether she liked to watch movies or a movie buff, but she took us for atleast 40+ movies. She took us to the Circus and exhibitions happened in Cuddalore and Pondicherry. Don’t know from where she gets the updates of the movie schedule and exhibitions schedules. (she was not familiar with reading or writing..she can only read numbers) . All I remember was she will be standing outside my school gate with all my clothes and stuffs packed in a bag to take me with her  for the holidays.

I’m blessed to be the most pampered grandson of her. It’s like wherever she goes and whatever she does, she takes me with her.  I still remember the way she took my Sisters Love marriage and the way she accepted and showered the same love to my Sisters husband. Though my aunt (sister’s mom) and other few close relatives were opposing for the marriage, my grand-mom and grandpa took that easily and supported her.  It’s true that 10 to 12 years back, Love marriages was not that easy for a family which lives in village. She was strong enough to overcome all the so-called assets oriented issues for several years, she was strong enough to see her younger son die slowly due to alcohol, she was strong enough to stay and live away from her village to a nearby town to avoid the social stigma, she was strong enough to see one of her most loved grandson die at a young age for no reason, she was strong enough to live a happy life with all these hurdles.

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All her sons ditched her life to hell at one or other point of time in the past 15 to 20 years, but till her last breath she never neglected her sons and their life. I wonder what made her carry over her life by surpassing all these hurdles. For most women, they would lost hope and got demotivated and they would have just spent the rest of life instead of living.

Apart from all these things, one strong thing I learned from her was, whatever happens, life has to move on. It’s all about how we are taking it and proceeding.

Living or Passing The Life. She had chosen to live. And she lived it.

Thanks for sharing the unconditional love on all your grand children till your last day. My life would have been incomplete if I would have missed to spend my childhood days with you. Really an enduring memories to Cherish.

“Dedicated to my most ever loving Grand Mother” – Remembering you ever !!!

Infusion !!!

In a relationship, it’s not about love, it’s not about gender, its all about who earns more between them. It defines the superiority in a relationship.So-called male domination is the one which makes a women compromise her dream with no choice. Mostly the male domination thoughts have been infused in men by women. All mothers, sisters & wives want their son, brother & husband to be the one who is responsible for their secured life and he has to earn more to prove that he is a Man. It’s all about earning respect in the so-called society. Even now, most of the modern age wives/girls want her husband/man to earn more than her, just to avoid the social stigma. This has to be changed. It will take a lot of efforts to see a change and surely it might take few generations.

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According to me, every mom, sister, and wife has a responsibility to not to infuse the hidden male domination thoughts to their son, brother, and husband. Instead, it is the responsibility of every dad, brother, and husband to infuse thoughts on her daughter, sister, and wife to think, dream and live free and independent. Though we can see a lot of changes in the young generation couples and parents, but still a long way to go.

Men not going to work is a social stigma and women going to work takes great responsibility and superior. This is the perception in most people’s mind. Why has this to be like this? In a relationship, it’s all about their decision to lead their life as they wanted to.

Work for survival, live to build a home and love & care for each other. Complement each other. Never take advantage of any decision. Domination starts when someone takes advantage of the situation. Women are not meant to be controlled or to be a sacrificing machine. In the same time, men are not meant to be superior ( physically/mentally ) and to be an earning machine.

Life will be so much beautiful when no domination thoughts are infused into the deeper minds.

Ki & Ka – A Topsy Turvy thinking by Director

Ki & Ka – Hindi Feature film, yet another beautiful movie from Balki. Topsy-Turvy is the best word to describe one of the most talented directors of Indian Cinema. Different Concept, unique approach, perfect casting, soothing music, eye-catching visuals, suitable dialogs and an equalent sprinkling of humor and emotion all over the movie. If you can see all these in a single movie, then it is Dir. Balki’s creation.

Ki & Ka is a cleverly chosen sensitive subject. The plot is all about the topsy-turvy thinking of the relationship ( so-called traditional / conventional practice ). The way he handled the script was amazing. Kareena Kapor Khan & Arjun Kapoor did their best for this movie. Swaroop Sampat(Kareena’s mom) role was adorable. Though this movie has got mixed reviews both negative and neutral, I felt that Balki handled it very well by not making it as more emotional or more of an advice or preaching kind of movie. He touched most sensitive parts of the movie very lightly, as he wanted to get connected to the younger generation.He just wanted to break the perceptions  like Women has to do all the house chores and homemaking and Men have to earn and has the responsibility to protect the family. If handling and making a home is an art, then why its totally dependent on Women ?

Few other things I like in this movie are romance between Ki & Ka, Ka & Ki’s Mom relationship, Ki’s house railway and train interior ( though it looked dramatic or set kind of thing ), visuals & Ilayaraja’s background score.

Apart from the critics and reviews about this movie, I feel all men and women have to watch this movie once and this will surely bring a different perception of seeing their living style. I liked this movie very much and I will recommend it to my friends to watch it once 🙂

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Ithu Chennai Da !!!

#chennaifloods #chennairains #chennairescue #chennaimicro #verified #ChennaiRainsHelp #medicalcamp #areanames etc., etc., These are the rescue and relief tags used by most of the volunteers and good hearts towards Chennai. People stood up and getting back Chennai as normalcy.

Crores of Donors

Lakhs of Volunteers

Thousands of Camps

Tonnes of Relief materials

Hundreds of huge containers

Thousands of vehicles, vans, lorrys,  Cars

Thousands of Shelters ( Marriage halls, mosques, temples, Churchs, community halls, bungalows, houses, Complexes, Multiplex, theatres )

These made Chennai what it is now. This is new to Chennai to face such a natural disaster. Chennai had no experience to handle this situation. Chennai would have never imagined getting these much support in a short notice. But everything happened. Very proud to be in the generation and humanity. No words to express thanks to Indian and NRI donors and the love they shared.

Life is so much beautiful with these good hearted people around as.Thanks for everything. We will be back in form in few weeks.

Let’s roar … ITHU CHENNAI DA !!!

ps: illustration of Chennai done by crazypencilz.com

 

Earlier, Now and Forever; Happy Watching Movies!

I’m a movie buff. My Love and interest for watching movies is not getting reduced as years pass by. In the recent times, I’m have become a fan of Malayalam Film industry (both off-screen and on-screen ). I just simply wonder at their simple and easy way of story telling and screenplay which is almost closer to reality and brilliant performances of the actors. Most films have a touch of their soil and surely will make any Malayalee to miss his hometown. And I have to mention about the friendliness between the artists. I’m not sure about the old Malayalam movies, I’m talking about the recent time Malayalam movies.

Mamookka, Lal Ettan, Dulquar, Nivin, Biju Menon, Kunjakogopan, Prithvi Raj, Jayaram, Fahad, Kalapavan Mani, Nithya Menon, Parvathi Menon, Nazriya Nizam etc., are my favorites.  Good to see that few of Malayalam movies hit the Box Office in Chennai in the recent times. Premam, Yennum Yepozhum, Dhrishyam, 1982, Baskar the Rascal, Shutter, Salt and Pepper, Dady Cool, Mili, Bangalore Days, Om Shanthi Osaana and Ustad Hotel are few of the recent movies I watched. I liked all the movies.
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I never intend to compare Tamil and Malayalam industry. As I know both the industries has their own style of making, different cultures, a different way of working and different kind of audiences.  Giving importance to the story line, close to reality screenplay, nativity dialogues, beautiful ladies, language and slang, mesmerizing music, greeneries all over the movies are the key features of the success of Malayalam industry.
Anyways whatever may be the language, good to see good films. I get a lot of inspiration and motivation from Movies; Earlier, Now and Forever. Happy watching Movies. 

Bahubali – a next level movie in Indian cinema industry.

Bahubali – India’s biggest movie, stunning sets, decent CG, good casting and screenplay best describes this movie. Really a next level movie for Indian cinema industry. More of these kind of films to be produced to showcase the history of strengths of our epics, kings and kingdoms. Wise decision from Rajamouli to release the part 2 as it created lot of expectations in the part 1. Hopefully the part2 will be much more technical and excelling in CG.

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Excellent performances from Prabhas, Rana, Ramya krishnan, Sathyaraj (Kittappa), Nazer, Prabhakar (The Villain) took hold of this film. BGM was also excellent. Commercial songs and Tammanah’s few scenes were setback for this film. Over all a nice experience watching this movie. Long way to go to compare it with Brave heart and other hollywood movies. But still this movie has proved that we are capable of making those kind of movies if the budget permits.

Awaiting to see Anushka’s stunning performance in part 2. Great job Dir. Rajamouli and congrats for the huge collection at box office.

ps: its purely my view on the movie and no intention to judge other talents and works. 

Conversions of Life…!

Pre Script: This blog post all about my views and perceptions and its about me…and if the reader is looking for something useful or interesting stuffs, you might get disappointed…! So you are free to skip this post…!

The way of Living was totally different for me in the past few months…! All these conversions like Close Friends turned into Friends, Friends turned into Just Friends, Just Friends turned into Strangers and finally its a confusing one to calculate these conversions in the recent years. What I wonder is , downside conversion automatically happens and the upwards conversion is not at all happening ( might be I haven’t tried ). Really tired of seeing good things to normal and normal to usual and usual to nothing.

My mind is in a clear confusion state. I am not talking about life’s experiences , just talking about happenings. I am really in a clear confused state to know and accept these modern days terms on friendships & relationships. One’s life changes with their individual decisions, changes and experiences, and I don’t know why I am hitting my head hard and feeling the changes in my life due to others individual experiences and decisions. I know this is not the right way to lead a joyful life.

I know its really tough time in my professional side, really working hard and draining out physically to put things in place. Glad that things are positive and able to see the improvements every day. But feeling mentally and emotionally low is not at all good at this time…! I should have got some emotional support at this time….I wonder why I gained no one to stay with me to give some emotional support. But the fact is everyone is around me…but the gaps created due to the above mentioned Conversations plays a big role. I don’t know how far I can run without a emotional support…I am not used with this….just simply pretending to be. I thank to my busy schedule , which keeps me away from worrying about these things…but when things stress out on professional side too…mind automatically starts longing for a support.

To be frank I am not bold or matured enough to face the challenges individually. I was always depended on a emotional support to share my success and happiness. I was grown up by pointing someone as a reason for my success and happiness. I always felt that sharing is my secret of success and happiness. And later its well proven tat it is wrong. Anyways success or happiness , if it is very big I want someone to take the whole responsibility and be a reason for tat. That is wat I am all about.

But for the first time in these years, I feel tired of running behind ppls, feeling very tired to maintain contacts and be in touch, feeling very tired of being good to everyone, feeling tired of maintaining the values and trust, feeling tired of learning experiences from the happenings in life, feeling tired of loosing ppl, feeling tired of explaining things, feeling tired of caring & hearing, simply and totally I am FEELING TIRED.

No one has seen my full potential…seriously NO ONE. Even I am very eager to see it. The roaring success and rejoicing happiness…is all closer to me on my professional side. But still there is no use in achieving this with no inner happiness. Its my usual habit tat, I often ask myself tat ..” Sathish… are you Happy ? “..and mostly the answers was YES. But nowadays I doubt myself about my happiness. Anyways trying to sort out things. Everyday moves on with a HOPE…! Have to make some good time to sit for myself and to put things straight. finishing this post with my fav lines from a tamil Song…!

ஒரே காண என் வாழ்விலே , அதை நெஞ்சில் வைத்திருந்தேன் …;
காண மெய்யாகும் நாள் வரை , உயிர் கையில் வைத்திருப்பேன் …;

வானே என் மேல் சாய்ந்தாலுமே , நான் மீண்டு காட்டுவேன் …;
நீ எனை கொஞ்சம் கொஞ்சினால் , நிலாவை வாங்குவேன். – Guru Movie.

Ps: I just now read the above post..really a confusing one….I can see the confusion in my mind from this narration. Anyways I most times used this space as my best one…to share things with no hesitation. And this helped me a lot in getting a temporary relief and slowly a permanent relief. Sorry for the bla bla bla narration from my confused mind.