5 generations of living

Life lived with 5 generations is completely different from passing life with 5 generations. Living life requires lot of maturity, lot of understanding, lot of acceptance, lot of eagerness, lot of happiness, lot of tolerance, and moreover lot of love and passion to live the life. But for existing or passing the life, just tolerance is enough.  I think more than men, women are more capable of living life fully for multiple generations.

Feeling proud that I was also part of 2 generations of the legendry women my Grandma. I’m not sure that I can use the word Legendary for a common woman who lived life within her boundaries.  But she was still like a miracle lady to me. I spent my whole childhood with her. She brought up me from my  1 year to 3 years  and then all the extended weekends, quarterly, half early and annual school long leaves and all the festive holidays….I spent with her.  Now she is no more…but all her memories are settled like fossils. Yeah its been one year since she passed away. (19th June 2016)

I’m sure she was not only kind of a Women who lived life for 5 generations or more. But she was the one whom I lived with and experienced all her unconditional love and affection and witnessed and been with her at-least 2 of her 5 generations. Her mental and physical strength all these years were a wonder to everyone around her.  I always admired by her Management skills (money, people, business, relationship etc.,). Apart from the past six months her life, she was independent and she was doing her farming works and making little penny every day.

I spent almost all my holidays with her; she was the one who took us (me, bros and sister) to movies. I remember we have watched most off the movies first day first show, that too all the Rajini films.  Not sure whether she liked to watch movies or a movie buff, but she took us for atleast 40+ movies. She took us to the Circus and exhibitions happened in Cuddalore and Pondicherry. Don’t know from where she gets the updates of the movie schedule and exhibitions schedules. (she was not familiar with reading or writing..she can only read numbers) . All I remember was she will be standing outside my school gate with all my clothes and stuffs packed in a bag to take me with her  for the holidays.

I’m blessed to be the most pampered grandson of her. It’s like wherever she goes and whatever she does, she takes me with her.  I still remember the way she took my Sisters Love marriage and the way she accepted and showered the same love to my Sisters husband. Though my aunt (sister’s mom) and other few close relatives were opposing for the marriage, my grand-mom and grandpa took that easily and supported her.  It’s true that 10 to 12 years back, Love marriages was not that easy for a family which lives in village. She was strong enough to overcome all the so-called assets oriented issues for several years, she was strong enough to see her younger son die slowly due to alcohol, she was strong enough to stay and live away from her village to a nearby town to avoid the social stigma, she was strong enough to see one of her most loved grandson die at a young age for no reason, she was strong enough to live a happy life with all these hurdles.

Beloved Grandmother

Grand Mother with my wifey

All her sons ditched her life to hell at one or other point of time in the past 15 to 20 years, but till her last breath she never neglected her sons and their life. I wonder what made her carry over her life by surpassing all these hurdles. For most women, they would lost hope and got demotivated and they would have just spent the rest of life instead of living.

Apart from all these things, one strong thing I learned from her was, whatever happens, life has to move on. It’s all about how we are taking it and proceeding.

Living or Passing The Life. She had chosen to live. And she lived it.

Thanks for sharing the unconditional love on all your grand children till your last day. My life would have been incomplete if I would have missed to spend my childhood days with you. Really an enduring memories to Cherish.

“Dedicated to my most ever loving Grand Mother” – Remembering you ever !!!

Infusion !!!

In a relationship, it’s not about love, it’s not about gender, its all about who earns more between them. It defines the superiority in a relationship.So-called male domination is the one which makes a women compromise her dream with no choice. Mostly the male domination thoughts have been infused in men by women. All mothers, sisters & wives want their son, brother & husband to be the one who is responsible for their secured life and he has to earn more to prove that he is a Man. It’s all about earning respect in the so-called society. Even now, most of the modern age wives/girls want her husband/man to earn more than her, just to avoid the social stigma. This has to be changed. It will take a lot of efforts to see a change and surely it might take few generations.

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According to me, every mom, sister, and wife has a responsibility to not to infuse the hidden male domination thoughts to their son, brother, and husband. Instead, it is the responsibility of every dad, brother, and husband to infuse thoughts on her daughter, sister, and wife to think, dream and live free and independent. Though we can see a lot of changes in the young generation couples and parents, but still a long way to go.

Men not going to work is a social stigma and women going to work takes great responsibility and superior. This is the perception in most people’s mind. Why has this to be like this? In a relationship, it’s all about their decision to lead their life as they wanted to.

Work for survival, live to build a home and love & care for each other. Complement each other. Never take advantage of any decision. Domination starts when someone takes advantage of the situation. Women are not meant to be controlled or to be a sacrificing machine. In the same time, men are not meant to be superior ( physically/mentally ) and to be an earning machine.

Life will be so much beautiful when no domination thoughts are infused into the deeper minds.

Cloud 9 with WORDPRESS

Happy Anniversary with WordPress.com!
I registered on WordPress.com 9 years ago. Thanks for the platform which gave and gives lots of happiness. Most times you were like a close friend where I can be who I am and express what I think. Thanks for tolerating the worst and bad English with lots of spelling and grammar mistakes. Thanks for getting me 99400 + views / readers / strangers.

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I always felt happy writing in this space. WordPress …. you mean a lot to me. 🙂

Way to go.

Ithu Chennai Da !!!

#chennaifloods #chennairains #chennairescue #chennaimicro #verified #ChennaiRainsHelp #medicalcamp #areanames etc., etc., These are the rescue and relief tags used by most of the volunteers and good hearts towards Chennai. People stood up and getting back Chennai as normalcy.

Crores of Donors

Lakhs of Volunteers

Thousands of Camps

Tonnes of Relief materials

Hundreds of huge containers

Thousands of vehicles, vans, lorrys,  Cars

Thousands of Shelters ( Marriage halls, mosques, temples, Churchs, community halls, bungalows, houses, Complexes, Multiplex, theatres )

These made Chennai what it is now. This is new to Chennai to face such a natural disaster. Chennai had no experience to handle this situation. Chennai would have never imagined getting these much support in a short notice. But everything happened. Very proud to be in the generation and humanity. No words to express thanks to Indian and NRI donors and the love they shared.

Life is so much beautiful with these good hearted people around as.Thanks for everything. We will be back in form in few weeks.

Let’s roar … ITHU CHENNAI DA !!!

ps: illustration of Chennai done by crazypencilz.com

 

Bane of cinema industry

Negative publicity is the greatest bane of Cinema Industry in the recent times. It has different faces like reviews, memes etc., Earlier we used to see reviews and which is like more of a analysis of the movie. It was kind of positive reviews and was a great support for all the movies. But in the recent times, people started creating negative reviews and memes to get more “like” or “Fan”base. Facebook, Twitter, blogging sites, websites, Radio shows etc., plays a master role in carrying these negative publicity. No one thinks its a creation and all creations are not meant to be perfect for every ones eyes. Every creation has its own pros and cons.  None of them is aware that they are indirectly destroying lot of creations and creators.

Here are few of the victims of negative publicity in Tamil film industry 7am Arivu, Anjaan, Maatraan, Maas, Kochadayaan, Linga and Puli. From the day one, these negative publicity is getting viral and it surely affec the next day or same day box office collections. Let the general public decide about the success and flop of a movie and not the so called intelligent and talented reviewers.  Just keep one thing in mind that Movie is a creation and its a business and not a Magic which comes with no efforts. It’s all about everything for people associated with it.

One…Two…Three and Counting….!

Pre Script: This blog post is all about my thoughts and its about me…if you are looking for something useful or general or  interesting stuffs, you might get disappointed…! So you are free to skip this post…!

Every day cuddles, little fights, word wars, arguments, silly jokes, ROLF moments, hitting hard, fighting and biting, lot of kisses, joyful moments, common friends, Crazy Pencilz, native places (Cuddalore and Aaralvaimozhi), marriages and functions, US-NJ onsite, experimental cooking, shopping, beach, Fish Curries, birthday cakes, little gifts, big gifts, surprises, crying, shouting, screaming, cleaning, washing, bike rides ( Yamaha Rx 100 & Scooty Pep ), arts and crafts, Canvas, paintings, pencil sketches, paper quelling, internet recipes, window shopping, monitor shopping ( online ), exhibitions, festivals, Onam, Vishu Kani, flowers, Chettas and Chechis, anna nagar Tower park, Connextions, Movies, Arul stores, Amara Stores, Santhosh Super Stores, Max, Pantaloon, Waves, Bata, fruits and veg market, medicines, Ayyapan temple, kids, sight seeing, Korattur, Anna Nagar, Adyar, Chetpet, T.Nagar, Street foods at T.Nagar, Pothys, Nalli, Saravana Super Stores, Villivakkam, selfies, chocolates, ice creams.  —- 1095 days ( 3 years )  are best described by the above listed things. (August 5th is our wedding anniversary)

Life was so much beautiful and  quite interesting ( trust me its true 😉 )  in these 3 years, filled with all the above mentioned things. Thanks wifey ( Padma Malini) for being with me as always. She is the one and only responsible for all the blunders and wonders of these 3 years. I’m only a active participant in most of the things and she is the core reason for all ( Planning, organizing and executing ).

Usually my days are filled with lot of things starting from, personal, work, special interests etc., And Padma is a part in my personal commitments. But Padma’s days and thoughts are filled with ME and other things like work, social, special interests are supplementary. I always wondered why and how she is so much crazy about me.

In these 3 years, I wouldn’t have done most of the things as expected by her. But surely I have been a good friend to her at all the times. Lot to go and years to come and looking forward for same happiness as always. I love her always for all the unconditional love.

Wishing ourselves many more happy returns.

Good to start my Day – B’day

Pre Script: This blog post is all about my views and its about me…and if the reader is looking for something useful or general or  interesting stuffs, you might get disappointed…! So you are free to skip this post…!

Its been so long since i have written in this space. And Happy that I am back here on my favorite month and on my favorite day ( Aug 20th – My B’day ). Good to start the wonderful day with lovely surprise gift from my darling wifey.

Though she is not in town, she made perfect arrangements few weeks back without my knowledge and executed it well. Thanks for all of her office friends. It was a real surprise to receive a bunch of gifts ( my favorite biscuits, chocolates, linen shirt etc.,)  a day before my day.  And I miss her soo much on this day. She is the one always wanted to be with me at all the times and will enjoy my company to the core. 🙂

Miss You Girl. And Love you forever. THE BEST THING ABOUT YOU IS YOU!

Happy Birthday. Wishing myself for a wonderful year ahead with all the happiness and surprises.