Infusion !!!

In a relationship, it’s not about love, it’s not about gender, its all about who earns more between them. It defines the superiority in a relationship.So-called male domination is the one which makes a women compromise her dream with no choice. Mostly the male domination thoughts have been infused in men by women. All mothers, sisters & wives want their son, brother & husband to be the one who is responsible for their secured life and he has to earn more to prove that he is a Man. It’s all about earning respect in the so-called society. Even now, most of the modern age wives/girls want her husband/man to earn more than her, just to avoid the social stigma. This has to be changed. It will take a lot of efforts to see a change and surely it might take few generations.

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According to me, every mom, sister, and wife has a responsibility to not to infuse the hidden male domination thoughts to their son, brother, and husband. Instead, it is the responsibility of every dad, brother, and husband to infuse thoughts on her daughter, sister, and wife to think, dream and live free and independent. Though we can see a lot of changes in the young generation couples and parents, but still a long way to go.

Men not going to work is a social stigma and women going to work takes great responsibility and superior. This is the perception in most people’s mind. Why has this to be like this? In a relationship, it’s all about their decision to lead their life as they wanted to.

Work for survival, live to build a home and love & care for each other. Complement each other. Never take advantage of any decision. Domination starts when someone takes advantage of the situation. Women are not meant to be controlled or to be a sacrificing machine. In the same time, men are not meant to be superior ( physically/mentally ) and to be an earning machine.

Life will be so much beautiful when no domination thoughts are infused into the deeper minds.

One…Two…Three and Counting….!

Pre Script: This blog post is all about my thoughts and its about me…if you are looking for something useful or general or  interesting stuffs, you might get disappointed…! So you are free to skip this post…!

Every day cuddles, little fights, word wars, arguments, silly jokes, ROLF moments, hitting hard, fighting and biting, lot of kisses, joyful moments, common friends, Crazy Pencilz, native places (Cuddalore and Aaralvaimozhi), marriages and functions, US-NJ onsite, experimental cooking, shopping, beach, Fish Curries, birthday cakes, little gifts, big gifts, surprises, crying, shouting, screaming, cleaning, washing, bike rides ( Yamaha Rx 100 & Scooty Pep ), arts and crafts, Canvas, paintings, pencil sketches, paper quelling, internet recipes, window shopping, monitor shopping ( online ), exhibitions, festivals, Onam, Vishu Kani, flowers, Chettas and Chechis, anna nagar Tower park, Connextions, Movies, Arul stores, Amara Stores, Santhosh Super Stores, Max, Pantaloon, Waves, Bata, fruits and veg market, medicines, Ayyapan temple, kids, sight seeing, Korattur, Anna Nagar, Adyar, Chetpet, T.Nagar, Street foods at T.Nagar, Pothys, Nalli, Saravana Super Stores, Villivakkam, selfies, chocolates, ice creams.  —- 1095 days ( 3 years )  are best described by the above listed things. (August 5th is our wedding anniversary)

Life was so much beautiful and  quite interesting ( trust me its true 😉 )  in these 3 years, filled with all the above mentioned things. Thanks wifey ( Padma Malini) for being with me as always. She is the one and only responsible for all the blunders and wonders of these 3 years. I’m only a active participant in most of the things and she is the core reason for all ( Planning, organizing and executing ).

Usually my days are filled with lot of things starting from, personal, work, special interests etc., And Padma is a part in my personal commitments. But Padma’s days and thoughts are filled with ME and other things like work, social, special interests are supplementary. I always wondered why and how she is so much crazy about me.

In these 3 years, I wouldn’t have done most of the things as expected by her. But surely I have been a good friend to her at all the times. Lot to go and years to come and looking forward for same happiness as always. I love her always for all the unconditional love.

Wishing ourselves many more happy returns.

No Luck this August…!

Usually for me August of every year will be a big one and interesting too. I always had loads of things to share with. But this year’s (2011) August really sucks. Except for very few things , everything missed out of my plans. Planned for few new things to be introduced related to my studio, planned for some bigger things on the NGO part too. Nothing worked….! 😦  I really hate this part of myself for not able to keep my words.

Seemed like I planed right….but failed somewhere to execute it. Not able to find where things went wrong. Seems like I work every hour of the day…but the end result is not productive. Hitting my head hardly…to make things on the line. Might be I need some silence and concentration. Seriously  have to rework on my time management skills/system. My friends used to say me tat, I’m very good in managing ppl. But recent happenings proves tat my ppl management skills are also not upto the level.  It’s like I am loosing my way…..have to be in track asap.

This time don’t need anyone to behold me . It’s time to learn and come up by myself. Still have lot of belief in me tat…I will make the things straight. Lets wait n see..how fast this things will get settled. LET’s SEE….!

AUGUST – has lots of things to deal with…!

AUGUST…here it is. As I always say….August is my favorite month for several reasons. August has my Big day, few close friends big day, friendship day, raksha bandhan, Crazy Pencilz Studio day etc. Every year…August had lot of stuffs , lot of happenings , lot of twists n turns. Usually perception varies time to time…but for me the perception on AUGUST is the same all these years.

All set to go, especially this year 2011’s August gonna be a big and challenging one. Planned for few new introductions, a long time dream gonna be completely live this month ( watchyourkids.org ), and few things related to CrazyPencilz. Done with all the action plans…and if things go right…really this years August will be memorable forever. Lets see how things gonna be….!

LIFE is Sooooo much BEAUTIFUL with this AUGUST month every year.

Its all about REALationships…!

( This post is gonna be just about my thoughts on myself and nothing more than a introspection…but nothing like too personal…if the reader thought of getting some common news from this post, then sorry…you can opt out of reading this…)

After a long time ….I’m looking into myself in terms of relationships. Long time back….read a SMS quoting that,

“Blessed is a person who is too busy to worry at Day time

                      & too tired to worry at Night time”

really a true one. I was actually like this for the past two years…..day and night full of works…thoughts full of commitments towards job….times full of dreams about the passion. Because of this I was out of every close relationships….and out of all my routines. And I sort of enjoyed it too. I was really fed up with my experiences on the relationships previously….so I felt  more relaxed when I was fully loaded with works and commitments towards work. Really life was so much beautiful with all these new experiences.

Every time when I get some bad experiences from the relationships in some way I took it as  I’m getting used with things and I’m getting more strength to handle the EQ side of me. But recently things were proven wrong. Again I was hit hardly and loosing my control. I hate this part of mine. Where all my experiences gone. Even I got hit even worse in the past…this time this is sort of new thing to handle. Where all my strengths have gone ?? So wats the use in learning lessons from all my experiences. Don’t know answer for all these questions. I hate myself for finding it hard to handle the situation now. I never wanted to be in this situation again. But I’m in tat. There is no one to Blame…seriously I have no one to blame for this situation.  Every one knows wat they want clearly and they move of with no reason or no explanation. I’m very tired of pulling answers and making a point in myself.

I’m not in Love, I’m not in committed relationships and not made anyone to be like tat with me. But things were misinterpreted , things were misjudged. This time its not about loosing…its all about hating myself for not able to handling things.

I don’t know why I get all these experiences all the time….I don’t know wat this life tries to teach me. I’m really tired of taking things positive….I’m tired of fooled myself by saying some self answers for the unanswered questions. I’m tired of going down to the core for asking a reason. I hate this part of myself. The end result is, I again started loosing faith in relationships….started loosing interest in relationships. I know this is not good for rest of my life. One should never loose faith in relationships. I’m really tired of these unwanted lessons for life. When it comes to relationships its useless to learn from one and another…just have to face it…tats it.  RELationships  should actually be seen as “REALationships”. Adding “A” will give more meaning to the word relationship.

I doubt  that I have some serious problem with my EQ side. Because how many times I loose…this time it’s even worse….totally upside down. This is not a big issue that I am not able to solve it….good thing is I have sorted out myself a lil  and things are good now. But wat matters is….how fast we are reacting and getting out of the things. Finally….. I should learn to develop some EGO on both personal and professional side. It helps a lot in this practical world. Just be practical in this practical world. Get used with the latest trends…even if it is in relationships.

Just little hope and the term “ Life is always Beautiful” and its the human who makes it ugly and complicated. So still believe in me for making this life more beautiful than ever. Long way to go…!

At time ..put things straight to bring more curves…!

Tough time ahead of me or I can say it along with me…! Things are not working out  as supposed to…or as I thought. Little bit interesting and different to handle…! But still….its really heavy to carry or handle…! Got to learn from every aspects and everything around me….! But the positive side is…I learnt to handle problem within its boundaries and not beyond tat…! So the advantage is one problem at a time and not the substitutes of the same…!

Putting things straight to make curves perfect...!

I’m 100 percent sure tat above paragraph will not give any meaning to any one…(seriously I’m also struggling get a meaning from it..lolz…jokes apart….)…its all about the professional side of mine…but not on the growth side…the growth curve is really good..and things are positive…! Its all about managing and handling certain things…! Experiencing these things in the beginning stages has a advantage always…! As Always…!

Just moving away from these things and marching forward with lot of  hope, courage , love and passion of what I do. Whatever happens life has to move on and this too shall pass away…! Feeling Happy for myself for handling some tough situations with a big smile and hope. Believe that I can put things straight to bring more curves (smiles)…! And as always waiting for the whole bunch of new days of the new weeks loaded with lot of surprises and twists and turns…!

With all these things Life is So Much beautiful…!

Beautiful wings has lots of pain behind it..!

For the past few weeks..one thing got into my mind and  I find it difficult to handle or accept it. And its not on the professional side ..its on the personal side…! The incident or the person or the thing related to this is not important …but I want to say something about my perception…!

I was in a thought that…with all my lessons learned from my past (emotionally) I can handle all the things easily. But things are not in my favor…life is interesting…it throws different things in different stages of life.And now again with lots of introspection  slowly getting to accept the things. Its about taking and accepting persons as they are…and everyone has a personal side and its different with everyone…! They should handle it and they should learn from their experiences…and no one else should try to help them getting out of the problem ( if they are grown enough).

Just remember this small story of a Butterfly which exactly relates to this post..( once told by me friend to me…!)

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly.
One day a small opening appeared.
He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours
as it struggled to squeeze its body through the tiny hole.
Then it stopped, as if it couldn’t go further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly.
He took a pair of scissors and
snipped off the remaining bits of cocoon.
The butterfly emerged easily but
it had a swollen body and shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch it,

expecting that any minute the wings would enlarge
and expand enough to support the body,
Neither happened!
In fact the butterfly spent the rest of its life
crawling around.
It was never able to fly.

What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand:
The restricting cocoon and the struggle
required by the butterfly to get through the opening
was a way of forcing the fluid from the body
into the wings so that it would be ready
for flight once that was achieved.

Sometimes struggles are exactly
what we need in our lives.
Going through life with no obstacles would cripple us.
We will not be as strong as we could have been
and we would never fly.

Cocoon goes thru the pain to get wings for life...!

It took all these years to understand this story exactly. Just tried to protect or help a friend from a big problem . But later realized that its time for my friend  to learn to handle this problem and get out of  it. When it comes to personal problem I should have thought this twice before involving into this. Life is all about learning and leading….! Again a good lesson from my best friend….! Thanks for that…and sorry if I disturbed in one way or other…!