5 generations of living

Life lived with 5 generations is completely different from passing life with 5 generations. Living life requires lot of maturity, lot of understanding, lot of acceptance, lot of eagerness, lot of happiness, lot of tolerance, and moreover lot of love and passion to live the life. But for existing or passing the life, just tolerance is enough.  I think more than men, women are more capable of living life fully for multiple generations.

Feeling proud that I was also part of 2 generations of the legendry women my Grandma. I’m not sure that I can use the word Legendary for a common woman who lived life within her boundaries.  But she was still like a miracle lady to me. I spent my whole childhood with her. She brought up me from my  1 year to 3 years  and then all the extended weekends, quarterly, half early and annual school long leaves and all the festive holidays….I spent with her.  Now she is no more…but all her memories are settled like fossils. Yeah its been one year since she passed away. (19th June 2016)

I’m sure she was not only kind of a Women who lived life for 5 generations or more. But she was the one whom I lived with and experienced all her unconditional love and affection and witnessed and been with her at-least 2 of her 5 generations. Her mental and physical strength all these years were a wonder to everyone around her.  I always admired by her Management skills (money, people, business, relationship etc.,). Apart from the past six months her life, she was independent and she was doing her farming works and making little penny every day.

I spent almost all my holidays with her; she was the one who took us (me, bros and sister) to movies. I remember we have watched most off the movies first day first show, that too all the Rajini films.  Not sure whether she liked to watch movies or a movie buff, but she took us for atleast 40+ movies. She took us to the Circus and exhibitions happened in Cuddalore and Pondicherry. Don’t know from where she gets the updates of the movie schedule and exhibitions schedules. (she was not familiar with reading or writing..she can only read numbers) . All I remember was she will be standing outside my school gate with all my clothes and stuffs packed in a bag to take me with her  for the holidays.

I’m blessed to be the most pampered grandson of her. It’s like wherever she goes and whatever she does, she takes me with her.  I still remember the way she took my Sisters Love marriage and the way she accepted and showered the same love to my Sisters husband. Though my aunt (sister’s mom) and other few close relatives were opposing for the marriage, my grand-mom and grandpa took that easily and supported her.  It’s true that 10 to 12 years back, Love marriages was not that easy for a family which lives in village. She was strong enough to overcome all the so-called assets oriented issues for several years, she was strong enough to see her younger son die slowly due to alcohol, she was strong enough to stay and live away from her village to a nearby town to avoid the social stigma, she was strong enough to see one of her most loved grandson die at a young age for no reason, she was strong enough to live a happy life with all these hurdles.

Beloved Grandmother

Grand Mother with my wifey

All her sons ditched her life to hell at one or other point of time in the past 15 to 20 years, but till her last breath she never neglected her sons and their life. I wonder what made her carry over her life by surpassing all these hurdles. For most women, they would lost hope and got demotivated and they would have just spent the rest of life instead of living.

Apart from all these things, one strong thing I learned from her was, whatever happens, life has to move on. It’s all about how we are taking it and proceeding.

Living or Passing The Life. She had chosen to live. And she lived it.

Thanks for sharing the unconditional love on all your grand children till your last day. My life would have been incomplete if I would have missed to spend my childhood days with you. Really an enduring memories to Cherish.

“Dedicated to my most ever loving Grand Mother” – Remembering you ever !!!

“Halwa every day at the aanganwadi”

Halwa every day at the aanganwadi“. This was the answer given by a kid when she was asked about her wish. Her name was Asha , a seven year old girl who was/is begging outside the Palace of Rani Roopmati in Mandu, a popular tourist destination in Madhya Pradesh with 48 historical monuments and an ancient love story.

Asha chatted away about her life. No, she goes to school only in afternoon and only for mi day meals , doesn’t know what ice-cream is and has not watched a film in a theater. She giggles at the name of Shah Rukh Khan and Akshay Kumar, but can’t recall the name of a single film. She still begs around the monuments because foreign tourists give her good goolis (toys), pens, money and chocolates.

Everyday at noon, she stands in the queue at the aanganwadi for the mid-day meal. “They give us dalia, roti-sabji (roti and vegetables) and halwa (a sweet dish) once a week,’’ she says, waving flies away from a face covered with fungal infection. “I go for the food but don’t like school.’’ Asha dreams of having halwa everyday.

Asha - a responsible kid

Asha - a responsible kid

This little girl has practically taken charge of her own life. Her mother goes to earn a living while the father drinks all day long. She knows the exact time when to go to the aanganwadi for her lunch and then begs for that extra something she gets from tourists. A responsible kid. 🙂

This would be the status of almost all the kids begging in front of temples , tourist places etc., What would be the reason for these things…may be the irresponsible parents , irresponsible society, economy of the district, poor politics etc., but whatever may be the reason..finally the kid was affected and the hole childhood was ruined and the childishness was destroyed.

I don’t want these kids to become a doctor, scientist , IAS officer etc., but still wanted their childhood back to them and the childishness to be with them at this age. Let them fight with the life or struggle with life at the certain age and not at this age.

Only Few things affects my mind in deep. One among those is child labor/begging. Working closely on this issue to give back the childhood at least for few kids. Hope for the best.

ps:- source from Times of India , 12th July 2009 ed.