Beautiful wings has lots of pain behind it..!

For the past few weeks..one thing got into my mind and  I find it difficult to handle or accept it. And its not on the professional side ..its on the personal side…! The incident or the person or the thing related to this is not important …but I want to say something about my perception…!

I was in a thought that…with all my lessons learned from my past (emotionally) I can handle all the things easily. But things are not in my favor…life is interesting…it throws different things in different stages of life.And now again with lots of introspection  slowly getting to accept the things. Its about taking and accepting persons as they are…and everyone has a personal side and its different with everyone…! They should handle it and they should learn from their experiences…and no one else should try to help them getting out of the problem ( if they are grown enough).

Just remember this small story of a Butterfly which exactly relates to this post..( once told by me friend to me…!)

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly.
One day a small opening appeared.
He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours
as it struggled to squeeze its body through the tiny hole.
Then it stopped, as if it couldn’t go further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly.
He took a pair of scissors and
snipped off the remaining bits of cocoon.
The butterfly emerged easily but
it had a swollen body and shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch it,

expecting that any minute the wings would enlarge
and expand enough to support the body,
Neither happened!
In fact the butterfly spent the rest of its life
crawling around.
It was never able to fly.

What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand:
The restricting cocoon and the struggle
required by the butterfly to get through the opening
was a way of forcing the fluid from the body
into the wings so that it would be ready
for flight once that was achieved.

Sometimes struggles are exactly
what we need in our lives.
Going through life with no obstacles would cripple us.
We will not be as strong as we could have been
and we would never fly.

Cocoon goes thru the pain to get wings for life...!

It took all these years to understand this story exactly. Just tried to protect or help a friend from a big problem . But later realized that its time for my friend  to learn to handle this problem and get out of  it. When it comes to personal problem I should have thought this twice before involving into this. Life is all about learning and leading….! Again a good lesson from my best friend….! Thanks for that…and sorry if I disturbed in one way or other…!

Nothing has changed …!

The present became past, moments became memories, mistakes became lessons, happenings became experience but when it comes to love and affection nothing has changed in me for all these years. Got to see a very good friend of mine after three years.Though we are not in good touch all these years…but still I feel the same love and affection. Still I can recall the golden old days when we are together.Though we are not chatting about the old days…still I can get back to it and can feel happy about it. We got to be very close during our college days. Times were there , I proudly flaunted as my best friend in this world. But times gone by…after college…we moved away(not so far) due to professional life….things had been changed slowly. Thick became thin, close become wide and the close friend became a just another friend.

I’m not sure about what my friend felt. I wanted to say I missed you and miss you still so much…but I couldn’t. All the silence and the distance created by the friend for all these years made me to stop expressing. And little bit afraid to express…! But only thing made me happy was I’m still the same.I wonder still I have the same place and importance to the friend in my heart.  This is the most important thing I wonder at myself.

Others took it easily and they adapted to the so called practical life ( this is wat they say). I found it hard to accept  certain things in the earlier stages…and as the time and experience and lessons gave me the power to accept things. Anyways  complains apart….I felt very happy to see a good friend of mine today after years.

Friends & memories....!

No matter who made the things worse…and who is the reason…only thing matters is the memories….THE GOOD MEMORIES. I have it always…thanks for that. Life is so much beautiful with memories of the unconditional love we shared with friends….! Miss you my friend…!

more friends into blog world …!

It’s happy to see that many of my friends are entering into blog world. Recently, one of my best buddy (Mohan) published his blog. Really good to read his blog. It’s a Tamil blog and he is good in writing and expressing , especially in Tamil.Simply I was impressed. It’s true that mother tongue is the best way to express.

Peoples interested in reading tamil Blogs can check this ““பின்னிரவில் பெய்த மழை.

Happy reading …!