For the past few months whenever I found time I was just listening to me. Some may tell this as introspection , but for me it’s just listening. I came to know lots of wonders and blunders about me. Here I just reveal one thing and I consider it as blunder,
I always expect a special consideration from the close friends. i.e. Whenever I get least consideration from them, I worried a lot and sometimes I was hurt to the core ( But nowadays I am the one who least bothered about that…thanks for all the lessons ). The consideration is big or small , but it should be unique and it should be for me always. Because of this thought in my inner mind, i started moving away(maintain a distance) from friends whenever I got less priority. Most times i never let them know the reason for moving away . And now I realize that , this is the biggest reason of me being a looser when it comes to close relationships.
Nowadays I am not (never wish to) expecting anything from friends , just take them for as they are and never expects any special considerations from others. Its good to be like this and now every day throws me lots of surprises for me and I get only happiness from friends and not worries.
Thanks for my ex-colleague (the so called close friend) for confirming me the lesson I should learn and I wish my colleague should be the last person, where I expected some special considerations. Never I make this mistake with others … and I won’t.
And this post is a Small confession to my dear ones ..If I would have hurt them by moving away … !
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
” When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support,
To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
Things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson,
Love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. “
Got to read this in a forwarded mail. Really true lines. I had/have few peoples for a reason and more peoples for a season and very few for a lifetime.The lessons learnt were harder at times and difficult to accept. But valuable lessons for lifetime. Nothing is occurring/happening for granted …everything has a reason.