Infusion !!!

In a relationship, it’s not about love, it’s not about gender, its all about who earns more between them. It defines the superiority in a relationship.So-called male domination is the one which makes a women compromise her dream with no choice. Mostly the male domination thoughts have been infused in men by women. All mothers, sisters & wives want their son, brother & husband to be the one who is responsible for their secured life and he has to earn more to prove that he is a Man. It’s all about earning respect in the so-called society. Even now, most of the modern age wives/girls want her husband/man to earn more than her, just to avoid the social stigma. This has to be changed. It will take a lot of efforts to see a change and surely it might take few generations.

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According to me, every mom, sister, and wife has a responsibility to not to infuse the hidden male domination thoughts to their son, brother, and husband. Instead, it is the responsibility of every dad, brother, and husband to infuse thoughts on her daughter, sister, and wife to think, dream and live free and independent. Though we can see a lot of changes in the young generation couples and parents, but still a long way to go.

Men not going to work is a social stigma and women going to work takes great responsibility and superior. This is the perception in most people’s mind. Why has this to be like this? In a relationship, it’s all about their decision to lead their life as they wanted to.

Work for survival, live to build a home and love & care for each other. Complement each other. Never take advantage of any decision. Domination starts when someone takes advantage of the situation. Women are not meant to be controlled or to be a sacrificing machine. In the same time, men are not meant to be superior ( physically/mentally ) and to be an earning machine.

Life will be so much beautiful when no domination thoughts are infused into the deeper minds.

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Just set it free…!

Recently read a article about OBSESSIVE Lovers. It was interesting and a must read thing to all,

Many of us at some point or the other have had to deal with the attentions of obsessive lovers or over-possessive, needy friends.Experience tells us that this trait, if not nipped at the bud can become dark and murky.

WHAT LEADS TO OBSESSION?
Love is defined as a strong bond between two people. And when that is threatened (imaginatively or really), the person becomes possessive, obsessive and paranoid to save their bond. This could just as well happen between friends, parent and child, as with lovers.

THE OBSESSIVE LOVER

People with low self image and confidence generally become obsessive in their relationships.

Early childhood experiences also play a big role in determining how one behaves in his relationships later.Over critical parents who constantly keep rejecting their child, scar them for life.

As adults, when they get into their first relationship, they find acceptance, but eventually become possessive,if that bond is threatened in anyway.

A series of failed relationships can also lead to an obsessive personality.They grow out to be insecure individuals who fear being ditched repeatedly.

There are some obsessive lovers who turn out to be sadistic. They can even go to the extent of harming the person. Such people usually suffer from psychopathic or anti-social tendencies.

YOU ARE AN OBSESSIVE LOVER IF…

  • You cannot forget the existence of that person in your life
  • You alter your schedule constantly to check where they are hanging out
  • You constantly need to check your lover’s phone history, email and text messages
  • You follow them everywhere and question them time and again about their whereabouts or who they are talking to.
  • You start fretting if your lover’s phone is engaged for sometime

STOP THAT

  • If you realize that you are unable to control your impulses, seek professional help immediately
  • Try to disconnect yourself with the person completely by cutting all links
  • Gather support from your family and friends.Ask them to help you stay away from the person you are obsessed with
  • Tell yourself that eventually you will get someone better.
  • DEAL WITH A STALKER
  • Call the police as early as possible
  • If the stalker is an ex, who threatens to show the world your personal pictures, letters, cards, do not feel scared. Chances are that they may be just empty threats.

The above is the edited version of an article from TOI news paper.

Just set it free...!

Just set it free...!

Honestly speaking I was a obsessive lover at one(three) point of time. Those are the bad patches of my life and of-course for the opponent also . There may be several reasons for being a obsessive lover but still its not good for a happy life either side. Its good that I have learnt quickly from the lessons (bad experiences) and not went to a worse level of obsessive.

In the past two years I can see great differences in me for not being obsessive and getting used to handle things. Thanks for all the introspection and to all the so called closed ones I missed.

Just simply …”If u love something …just set it free…!“.

Confession from my heart …!

For the past few months whenever I found time I was just listening to me. Some may tell this as introspection , but for me it’s just listening. I came to know lots of wonders and blunders about me. Here I just reveal one thing and I consider it as blunder,

I always expect a special consideration from the close friends. i.e. Whenever I get least consideration from them, I worried a lot and sometimes I was hurt to the core ( But nowadays I am the one who least bothered about that…thanks for all the lessons ). The consideration is big or small , but it should be unique and it should be for me always. Because of this thought in my inner mind, i started moving away(maintain a distance) from friends whenever I got less priority. Most times i never let them know the reason for moving away . And now I realize that , this is the biggest reason of me being a looser when it comes to close relationships.

Nowadays I am not (never wish to) expecting anything from friends , just take them for as they are and never expects any special considerations from others. Its good to be like this and now every  day throws me lots of surprises for me and I get only happiness from friends and not worries.

Thanks for my ex-colleague (the so called close friend) for confirming me the lesson I should learn and I wish my colleague should be the last person, where I expected some special considerations. Never I make this mistake with others … and I won’t.

And this post is a Small confession to my dear ones ..If I would have hurt them by moving away … !

AirTel – Cuts down the gap in relationships

Airtel has cut down its STD charges and now it is adorable and more or less equal to local calls. This is a good news for all. A day before I was just watching a advertisement of AIRTEL related to the cut down of STD charges. Actor Madavan (maddy) and vidya balan were acting in the add. The add was really cute. An add comprising that there should be no distance maintained between relationships(closed ones).

Yeah tats true…long back I read a quote ” out of sight , out of mind“. Its true..i believe in the quote. As such we can also say that ” out of ears, out for ever“.

If this AIRTEL or some other providers would have cut down their STD prices few years(3.5 years) back, I would not have missed my small wonder in my life. STD charges played a vital role in increasing the gap in the relationship. Okay…past is past and have to take it like passing clouds.

Hope to get a roaming free AIRTEL connections very soon. I just love AIRTEL for whatever it is.

Check for STD new Tarrif here.